Couples Counseling

If you are in an intimate relationship and have reached an impasse in your ability to connect and communicate, couples therapy may be for you.

Through experience, we know that difficulties between couples are very rarely due to just one person. Each person in a couple is a complex individual with all sorts of fears, hopes, pain, needs, and histories.  Sometimes difficulties in relationships can cluster around major life events; for instance, moving in together, having a baby, financial difficulties, sexual differences, career changes, lifestyle changes, or retirement. Sometimes there has been a significant betrayal that continues to impact the relationship or the other partner, creating a painful cycle, continually triggering one person’s past.

Our therapists understand the diverse feelings that exist in these situations. We help the couple make sense of those experiences. During couple’s counseling each person’s individual strengths are identified, as well as the strengths of the couple as a whole systemic unit. Our approach, in general, is to provide a safe, comfortable, and supportive environment for each person to learn and grow within themselves, their relationships, and their experiences.

Our couples work is very intentional about first listening to both individuals and then seeking to slow down the process of how you communicate with one another. By doing this, we are practicing and preparing you both for those real, in-the-moment conversations that seem to keep you stuck in the same place. By growing in your ability to listen to each other, you will begin to understand what it is that your significant other needs, and you will begin to feel more heard and understood.

When you do this, more often than not, you are able to break those old habits of communicating and relating to each other.  We offer a space in which difficult feelings can be explored between you as a couple, without judgment or blame. Our role is to provide a safe and informed place in which a couple can become clear about what is happening between them, allowing them to make more helpful and loving choices, and to move on and make decisions with greater clarity and understanding.

Through our couples therapy, we help couples more truthfully know themselves and each other. This leads to a better understanding of how their inner selves are affecting their day-to-day, outer lives. Couples counseling is not an easy process at times, and we know it takes a lot of courage to work on those stuck places. There is much on the line for couples, families, and individuals who are facing such difficulties. The journey may be hard, but the rewards are great. An initial consultation will enable you to discover whether couples therapy will be a way forward for you. Our goal is to create a safe and supportive place. We are open and affirming of all sexual orientations and gender identities.

The full fee for couples counseling is $75. We offer a sliding scale for $65 and $55.

Intake Process

The first step in the intake process is to complete and return an STA 2017 Couples Confidential Intake Form to

Once we review the intake, we’ll ask you to complete the Gottman Relationship Checkup. This is a thorough and effective way for us to assess your strengths and challenges as a couple, as well as to discern if STA will be a helpful fit for couples counseling. The Relationship Checkup costs $30 per couple, and you can read more about it here.

If you and your partner are interested in beginning couples counseling, please submit an STA 2017 Couples Confidential Intake Form to Please note: We only need one intake form per couple.